Thoughts On // How To Make New Friends

Hey everyone!

I hope you all are having a lovely week and are staying healthy in this crazy flu season. I was recently inspired to write about the above topic after a lovely blog reader asked about making new friends in this post.

When I (Hadassah) was younger, I was extremely introverted, only having a couple of friends. And friends when we’re younger… that can mean anything from the girl you met on the playground (she gave me a STICKER!! She must really want to be my new best friend!! 😂) to someone you go to church with for years.

Honor, Mercy (her younger sister), and I at a friend’s riverboat wedding last summer. I’ve known these girls for ten years now!

As I got older, and got into more of an extraverted shell (though hey, this girl’s got an introvert side, believe it or not!), I started making new friends, and these are just some tips I learned:

1: Be friendly, but not OVER-THE-TOP friendly! Be genuine as you introduce yourself. I always seem to find myself fake smiling, and have to relax a bit.

2: Don’t fidget. This one is hard, especially if I find myself trying to talk to someone who is super quiet! But I think fidgeting actually makes the other person more nervous.

3: Be open! Don’t introduce yourself and walk away. Think about some conversation starters- – e.g., I used this one recently: do you like to read? Which led to a whole conversation on Lord of the Rings! I also love asking about their family, siblings, where they live, where they go to school… once you start getting to know someone, the questions/answers flow more easily.

4: Group conversations! Recently, a bunch of us JY girls were at an event and decided to talk to two sisters (both in their twenties) who were over near the door, standing quietly together. We approached them, introduced ourselves, and started talking about everything from college to siblings! Group settings seemed more relaxed than one-on-one.

5: Guys/girls are different! I recently learned that guys talk to each other in a different way. Whereas girls stand facing each other and look at each other in the eye, guys are more relaxed if they’re standing more side-by-side talking to someone. Don’t know if this is 100% true haha, but it’s definitely something to keep in mind if you’re trying to be friends with a guy.

6: Be honest! Honesty is the best policy! 🙂

Savannah and I… stage makeup on for a recent show back in November! She and I have been friends since September, 2017- and yep, we’re the short/tall girl duo!

Making friends is harder for some people, no joke! Some things to also remember? Don’t force a friendship, and just pray about it. Prayer has gotten me through a lot of hard patches in friendships and definitely in making new friendships. But it’s really neat to see some friends stick by you for years and years, and you just think: “Wow. She’s a keeper!!”

My dad challenged me a few months ago to think about this: if you found yourself needing to call someone at 1 AM in the morning, who would come, no matter what? I realized how blessed I am with so many friendships!

Proverbs 17:17: A friend loves at all times… ❤


7 thoughts on “Thoughts On // How To Make New Friends

  1. Jacie Testi says:

    I absolutely loved this post it helped me so much! ❤
    I am moving to Tennessee and we are searching for a new church and I meet a lot of people and I want to make a friend and it is really hard to make a friend. I thank you so much for this and I will be back latter! ❤ oh by the way my cousin ( Lily Testi) mentioned your blog to me and I am so great full she did! ❤



  2. AD says:

    Good post… Seeking out and joining a group of people with a similar key interest as you helps in my opinion in the friendship to happen naturally and not force.


  3. Heaven says:

    This post was perfect timing, Hadassah!!! There is a new girl at my Church’s Youth Group and I have been struggling with trying to reach out to her. She is so shy! It doesn’t help that I’m a bit of an introvert when it comes to meeting people. These are some really good tips and I’m definitely going to keep them in mind! ❤


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